...have parental issues with their mothers. I, on the other hand, have parental issues with my father. Our relationship is a fine balance...
2% Similar interests
5% Political arguments (him calling me a communist)
8% Bickering about inanities
15% Questioning my decisions and ability seriously
70% Sarcastic belittling
Maybe his constant insults have helped to develop my finely tuned wit (and crushing depression) that will ultimately lead to my success as a writer (posthumously, after my breakdown and alcohol and drug related death).
Keep on Tranglin,
Anthony
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My dad was very similar to that when I was younger. We used to fight a lot. A lot lot. There was a long and circuitous series of events that turned our relationshp around and now we get along very well. I cannot offer advise, I can only pray that circuity finds you and your Dad.
Save some liquor and drugs for me. We can snort ourselves into the pearly gates together.
I'm beginning to suspect that it's a thing to do with being the son or daughter..coz i'm starting to notice that most daughters tend to have issues with their mothers (not proud to say, i'm one of them), and sons, their fathers. my brother has issues with my dad too, but not my mum.
i second that yudeology
i'm also one of those daughters with mother issues.
"you'd be so attractive if you weren't so fat."
There's a term for when a doctor thinks he's helping a patient, but he winds up hurting him instead. I'm too lazy to look it up right now.
Sometimes it's hard to determine if your parent(s) means well but is horribly mistaken, or when he/she/they is abusive and enjoys hurting you.
But the vast majority of parents fall in the first category.
My mother, for example, didn't want the world to hurt me so she tried to tell me to "toughen up." It just made me feel like my feelings were invalid and I should just swallow them. Then, when TEO was abusive, I thought I should just "toughen up" and take it. Not at all what my mother intended.
So, remember: your parents aren't perfect. They make mistakes in how they treat you, but that doesn't mean they intend to hurt you.
And Nick and Antonio, you are activating my protective maternal extincts. No self-destructive behaviors!
I have a shed in my backyard. I could put a couple of cots in there for you two to live. You will be allowed into the house for meals, but you'll have to shower with the garden hose (or Mt. Tikisoki, if you're feeling adventurous). That way, I could keep an eye on you two.
Mt. Tikisoki in a Chicago backyard in August. Good idea
Mt. Tikisoki in a Chicago backyard in December. Bad idea.
I do realize my father isn't perfect, but I feel he often reacts to the things he disagrees with as personal insults and retaliates.
"You will be allowed into the house for meals, but you'll have to shower with the garden hose (or Mt. Tikisoki, if you're feeling adventurous). That way, I could keep an eye on you two."
If you want to watch us shower, I am fine with that, but I flatly refuse to scrub Anthony in any way.
my dad broke my tailbone with his boot "for my own good"
so i faked a drug problem so he would send me to treatment and i could get out of the house..
sorry, im sure youve already heard all this. im having a bad day and i am feeling sorry for myself.
My mom writes a journal from her dog's perspective and emails it to me twice a day. "This morning mama gave me bacon and it tasted soooo gooood. Yum. Then we went for a walk," etc., etc., etc. Sometimes she tries to use subversive dog techniques like, "Mama worries about Kimmy because she wastes her money on an MFA program and drinks gin in the morning." I used to show it to all of my coworkers every day. Now it's just another shameful secret.
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